What Almost No One Knows About Communication
Are you having problems expressing your feelings to the person you love? Does your partner run the opposite each whenever you try? If so, this might be good news for you: In fact, there are plenty of ways to enhance emotional communication and strengthen your relationship.
Let’s start with initiating small talk. You may believe talking about a new car or even politics is far from connecting emotionally, but research tells us these supposedly petty details are actually more likely to strengthen your close emotional attachment to your partner than a deep and heavy discussion of your feelings.
You may think as well that you know every single detail about your partner’s life, but it’s a way of being closer. Talking about yourself is even fine, but don’t be full of it. Keeping a healthy balance between talking and listening is tough in most relationships, but even more challenging as you get to know each other, so it’s a must that the two of you get are able to to talk and listen.
Listening is an actual skill, by the way, and you can enhance yours through a method referred to as “active listening.” This is a style of listening where you show that you are not merely listening, but also understanding what the other is talking about.
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Understanding may be communicated with a sincere smile, maybe or a phrase, such as “I do understand” – if you actually did understand. Interestingly, active listening may also involve interruptions to clarify or even disagree to something that was said.
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If you interrupt, remember to ask permission. “Sorry, but can I ask you a question? Then ask something that is relevant to whatever your partner was trying to tell you. If you disagree with the general concept or with how they handle of a situation, wait until they are done talking before you express your disagreement. If you think you need clarification on something, ask them politely, never with an accusatorial tone.
As soon as you know of some of the secret shared moments you’re having with your beloved, find ways to increase the time for your everyday “insignificant” experiences together. If you or your partner is not that good at expressing your feelings or even talking about your day’s most mundane details, that'(s not a problem. Read the first few paragraphs again.
Remember, research says just spending time with your partner doing seemingly trivial activities, from listening to music to reading the paper, is way more important to your relationship’s health than discussing feelings.